Little Moments: Should Mama

I read a post the other day over at Creative With Kids that really made me think.

The post was about the guilt that comes with being a mother…about banishing the dreaded “Should Mama” (you know…You SHOULD be doing xxx if you REALLY want to be a good mother…if you want to be deserving of this love and worthy of these beautiful children…).

I am the first to admit that I struggle with the Should Mama way more than I want to, and that it sometimes keeps me from enjoying the little moments in our days together.

I have a project in mind to brighten up our dining room/art space, which I will share at some yet-to-be-determined point in the future, but I will say that it involves displaying my growing collection of Instagram photos.

Little Moments: Should Mama

Since I’ve never printed any of them, going through my entire feed and selecting my favorites was a daunting task, but it also reminded me that I have a beautiful, beautiful life. ¬†Exactly as it is right now. It’s rarely perfect, it’s not always pretty, and definitely not for the faint of heart, but it is beautiful.

We have adventures.

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We make things.

Little Moments: Should Mama

We start new traditions and make memories. (This is the twins’ little “upstairs tree” decorated by them with ornaments from my childhood and my husband’s.)

Little Moments: Should Mama

And during stolen moments (like nap time today) I get to “work” while indulging my creative whims!

Little Moments: Should Mama

All in all, it’s pretty damn amazing. So Should Mama? STEP. OFF.

I’m busy being the best mom for my kids. Just the way I am.

*Photos taken with iPhone 5, edited in Afterlight, shared on Instagram.


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  1. I need to kick the should mama in the back and knock her out of my mind too :) Thanks for this post, really appreciate it :)

    I have been thinking about the photos on my FB and Instagram too… I am going to look forward to what you are coming up with :)

  2. Great post! You are an amazing mom ALL. THE. TIME! Thanks for sharing with us.

  3. I deal with the same struggles as a mom! But lately when I think i’m being too hard on myself to be “perfect”, I remember what it was like growing up with all the excitement of new and imagination. and I remind myself to just let them be kids and learn and experience life their way, and not worry about what growing up “should” be like for them.

    Great post :)

  4. I read that same post, Stephanie, and it resonated with me as well. I think we, as mamas, tend to beat ourselves up over what we don’t do . . . rather than focusing on what we DO with the kiddos. :) Lovely way to bring the focus back to the positive.

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